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1. The Verbally ABUSED HUSBAND

2. This is compassionately dedicated

3. to the men who have fought to love and understand

4. in total solitude

5. The women that…

6. The women that… Rage at them

7. The women that… Rage at them Call them names

8. The women that… Rage at them Call them names Criticize their mistakes

9. The women that… Rage at them Call them names Criticize their mistakes Joke about their insecurities

10. The women that… Rage at them Call them names Criticize their mistakes Joke about their insecurities Mock their interests

11. The women that… Rage at them Call them names Criticize their mistakes Joke about their insecurities Mock their interests Trivialize their pain

12. The women that… Rage at them Call them names Criticize their mistakes Joke about their insecurities Mock their interests Trivialize their pain Yell at them suddenly

13. Threaten them with their deepest fears

14. Then tell them they deserve it!

15. Then to top it off…

16. She denies it all!

17. If you are one of these men…

19. We believe in you

20. in your struggle

21. your loneliness

22. and your pain.

23. It's all very real.

24. You are not alone!

25. Here are some signs

26. Of an abusive relationship

27. But before we start…

28. A point of clarification:

32. Types of Emotional Abuse: Based on: The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans

33. Withholding

34. Withholding When a women refuses to empathetically listen, validate, or share emotions. She withholds thoughts and feelings. She thus destroys the core of what sustains an intimate relationship, intimacy.

35. Countering

36. Countering She negates, or counters his reality, feelings or experiences. He cannot say or do anything right.

37. Discounting

38. Discounting Discounting causes partners to believe something is truly wrong with their feelings, thoughts and experiences. It causes a feeling of worthlessness.

39. Disguised Jokes

40. Disguised Jokes Pokes at his most sensitive areas. Demeaning to his masculinity or abilities.

41. Blocking and Diverting

42. Blocking and Diverting Blocking and diverting controls the discussion. When she BLOCKS, she will negate or nullify your statements. When she DIVERTS she will end the discussion, claim confusion, or “tiredness” with the subject. This prevents any possibility of resolving conflicts.

43. Accusing and Blaming

44. Accusing and Blaming A verbal abuser will accuse or blame her partner for causing the abuse she is perpetrating.

45. Judging and Criticizing

46. Judging and Criticizing The verbal abuser judges her partner’s thoughts and actions and then expresses her judgment in a critical way. By doing this, she continues her controlling behavior.

47. Trivializing

48. Trivializing By trivializing his actions, opinions or perceptions, she is in essence saying that he is less significant that she. She thus tries to maintain her power over him.

49. Undermining

50. Undermining Undermining not only withholds emotional support, it erodes confidence and determination. This makes her feel that she can more easily control him.

51. Threatening

52. Threatening “ Do as I say or else…” Verbally abusive threats are usually targeted directly at the victims deepest held insecurities. The ultimate statement of power and control.

53. Name Calling

54. Name Calling Simply put, this is the most overt and obvious verbal abuse there is. Name calling is the ultimate nullification of his “self”. In other words “You do not exist”.

55. Forgetting

56. Forgetting Abusive forgetting, i.e. “forgetting” appointments, agreements, and/or incidences is a form of manipulative denial. The abuser bluntly denies the partners existence. In doing so she shuts down any possibility of communication. Its like talking or living with a brick wall.

57. Ordering and Demanding

58. She’s in charge here… Ordering and Demanding is meant to demean a partner and tell him he is neither equal nor autonomous. Ordering and Demanding

59. Denial

60. Denial She feels that she in not accountable. She could read all of these categories and say "I love you, I'd never do anything to hurt you." She may even believe that herself.

61. Abusive Anger

62. Abusive Anger By being abusively angry, the abuser is saying; “ As long as I am scary and threatening to you I can have my way”.

63. If you are the victim of emotional abuse there is help available:

64. If you are the victim of emotional abuse there is help available: Consult Your Family Doctor

65. If you are the victim of emotional abuse there is help available: Consult Your Family Doctor Consult your Lawyer

66. If you are the victim of emotional abuse there is help available: Consult Your Family Doctor Consult your Lawyer Learn as much as you can on the subject

67. If you are the victim of emotional abuse there is help available: Consult Your Family Doctor Consult your Lawyer Learn as much as you can on the subject Start the process towards a happier life!

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