This is a simple and straightforward method we can use if we’re approaching a potentially anxiety-inducing situation, encouraging us to bring to mind a reassuring message to keep us calm and grounded, and if necessary to accompany it with a calming breath or two. We can also just use these aides-memoire if and when we could use a confidence boost. (My thanks to Gillian Butler, and her excellent book ‘Overcoming Social Anxiety and Shyness’, which first introduced me to this technique)